Does The Love Comes and Go or It Just Stay There?

In our history taking first year, whether it is respiratory, cardiovascular, or urinary history taking, we must always ask the patient when they have a pain in chest or somewhere in the body, we need to ask them these list of things:

1)when the pain first started to come?

2)does the pain comes and go or it just stay there?

3)how long the pain last for?

and now i wonder if i can actually change the word 'pain', to 'love'.

1)when the love first started to come?

2)does the love comes and go or it just stay there?

3)how long does the love last for?

lots of people think that marriage is about getting a lovely bridal gown, havoc wedding days with lots of fresh flowers, having lots of people coming with colorful clothes, lovely foods and the awaiting honeymoon.

but how many of them really know what is actually lying ahead of the wedding day? yes, something big, bigger than what you can imagine.

marriage means, to find a partner who can synchronize with you in time of desperation, happiness, loss, exasperation, and basically, everything. you can understand them, know why they are acting in certain way, and most important thing is, you are willing to sacrifice for them and tolerate them for the rest of the whole of your life. WHOLE OF YOUR LIFE. not just 1 term, 1 year, or 5 years, or 20 years, but the whole years. 70 years? 50? 30? i dont know.

it is about taking care of him when he is sick to his death, not able to move his body but you are there to give him support, feed him, take good care of him with all the sincere smiles instead of complaints. 

it is about remaining silent when he would love to go to this place when you feel sick to your death at the sight of it.

it is about compromising with him, when he decided to do something that you dont really like.

and yes, it is about sacrifice.

refusing to do so result in so many case of divorce. just look around you, how many women need to survive alone after the unsuccessful marriage even when the marriage are completely because of pure love at the first place.

love is like the trees full of leaves during summer. first, relationship is blessed with lots of leaves. but when autumn arrives, the harsh weather trying to reap off the leaves from the trees, separating it from its branches, only few remains. and the question is, how many of those leaves remaining when it all ends? and do those leaves remaining are strong enough to keep the tree alive, blessed and healthy again?

love is not a simple thing. it can comes and go, or it can just stay there. but seldom it stay there when the harshness of life keep trying to reap you apart. when love starting to fade, i think it is a good idea to reminisce about all those good times you guys have had together when the love blossoms at its top.